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Answers for the Newly Engaged | Bite-size Vol.1.5

This post is a little pressie from me to you, about how to best send and receive RSVPs. If you’re going to be buying Wedding invitations soon, the whole task is rather daunting. So here’s a little tip that will save some money and make things rather simple for your RSVPs.

A Quick Money Saving Tip !

Most people like to use traditional RSVP cards for their wedding invitations, simply because most people know how they work and what to do with them. Write your name(s) and your dinner preference, pop it in it’s little envelope, stick on a stamp and then in the nearest post box it goes. Oooosh! done.

A money saving tip for this style of RSVP is to change the enveloped card into a postcard. This eliminates the cost of an envelope (usually around 30p-60p each per invitation). It doesn’t sound like a lot singularly, but say you needed 150 invitations… That could be up to £90 saved!

Anyway, my point is it’s super cute to send a postcard in the mail, and even cuter when it’s saving you money in the long run. Why not put it towards your honeymoon or groomsman or bridal party gifts?

Even if you’re not that concerned about money, it could go towards stamps for each of your RSVPs so your guests don’t have to get one.

Super OOooooosssssh! Anyways, there you are – a mini money saving tip!

Namaste, with love, ’till next time.


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Answers for the Newly Engaged | Bite-size Vol.1.4

Just ideas for adding your own sparkling touch to your invitations. Hell, let’s have some fun!

Adding a bit of quirk

Formal Invitations. They have rules here and rules there about what you should and shouldn’t do. I say, shake off the rules and add yourself a little bit of quirk! After all, the day is about celebrating love right? Shouldn’t that be super fun?

Here are three fun ideas for adding that awesome extra special touch to your wedding…


Ever thought about a #wedding hashtag? [ shameless, I know ] If you include one on your invitations people will flood social media outlets with excited ‘got the invitation’ photos, ‘getting ready’ photos, ‘on-the-way’ photos – you name it! The photos will be everywhere – you’ll have so many memories!

Actual Photos

Have you thought about putting a photo selection of you both in with your invitations? Or perhaps integrated as a part of the design? Nothing adds comic value like the two of you in a photo booth pulling faces, holding up a post-it, noting on it the date of your wedding. Your guests will certainly be expecting the good times to roll if they’re having fun as soon as they open your invitations!

Glitz and Fizz

My personal favourite! Add glitter! But not too much – no one wants to be hoovering for eternity. Best not to dump a hand-full into your envelopes because you might find a few guests have a hard time finding it cute or funny. I’m here to help, trust me I want glitter too! Here’s what you do: add a glittering sparkle to every single invitation by lining the envelopes with non-shedding glitter paper. It’ll conjure images of a shining glitterati army with champagne flutes full immediately. If that doesn’t get your guests buzzing with excitement at the invitation stage… well, to quote a friend who said recently “I’ll find a rice paper hat, and i’ll eat it.” – I will. and I will eat it.

With love love love, please spread the love xXx

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Answers for the Newly Engaged | Bite-size Vol.1.3

This week I want to talk about just a little thing physically, which is most cases happens to be a big thing indeed. One of the biggest things probably. Because if you don’t know who’s coming to your wedding… Well, that’s not a great way to countdown the last few weeks.

I’ve learned, over the last handful of years, that getting RSVPs sorted can be hard bloody work. Alright, it’s a fucking nightmare sometimes, so it’s best to limit that risk right off the bat.

RSVPs: friend of foe? Usually foe, but after reading this, hopefully friend!

What’s the best way to get our RSVPs back?

Okay, generally the rule of thumb is to make it easy. Easy for them, yes, and easy for you too. I emphasise this because most people really focus on the former part of that sentence and give guests about 3-5 ways to RSVP because they have a huge majority of people coming and it’ll make it easier for them to pick the way they like best.

As much as this is very kind of you, you’re going to make your wedding planning a slight nightmare near the end stages, trying to work out if everyone has RSVP-ed or if you think you’re still waiting for anyone. In my example, you’ll need to cross reference up to 5 areas for each person if you’re not careful, and trust me when I say, it’s most likely that you’ll need to chase a few, so it’s best to play it simple.

Some typical choices people opt for when choosing how to RSVP:

  • Traditional RSVP postal card
  • Telephone(s) or text RSVP
  • Email RSVPs
  • Wedding website RSVPs
  • Wedding App
  • Facebook group confirmation
  • QR code

But which ones shall I choose? Ah grasshopper, you only really need just the one.

Picking many will likely confuse your guests in general. Choice rather complicates things as opposed to simplifying them. Mark my words, they’ll likely choose to do a couple, just to be sure (which will make all your brain feel a little crazy, with all the cross-referencing) or perhaps they’ll call you and ask the best way to do it before they do anyway which spoils the point. All much of a muchness!

Instead, choose they way you know most of your guests will have knowledge of. It’s no good using a QR code if your poor Granny isn’t sure what one is. Poor Granny!

Postal RSVPs is a time-honoured tradition, so might be best to go that way if you have lots of older or digitally-unfamiliar family members.

If you are next-to-certain everyone on your list can all use web browsers or email, digital may be the way to go for you. It’s all individual and depends on the people you’re inviting, but one thing is for sure:

Go with the majority vote, on this one.

If you’re thinking there will be a handful of guests who are not able to RSVP in the way you have chosen, I’ve got a little fix: put a little star next to their name on your list-i-wink. A week after you send your out invitations, give them a quick phone call or visit to see if they got it recently, and check if they’re okay RSVP-ing in the way you guys have suggested – if not, give them a new way, such as text or over the phone – then you’re totally sorted.

Complicating the process any further can be tricky and make information gathering a bit much for any Bride or Groom. I mean, imagine if you need to collect dietary choices or allergies too?? I’m sweating thinking about it.

Trust me peeps, one way is good. If you have to, at the most, pick two. My preference will always be by postal mail – everyone knows how it works and there’s the added benefit of not having to include a long email address or website address on your invitations; call me a traditionalist, but I do love home addresses on printed wedding stationery.

In short: Less options = easier for them, less admin = easier for you. Win-win!

Top tip for using postal RSVPs:

Gotta tell you this, it’s a gem of a tip!

A great way to match up your RSVPs to your names list is to number them so their very easy to look through and check off your list as needs be. Simply pop a digit on the envelope/postcard and on your spreadsheet too, next to the names.

“I don’t want to spoil my beautiful wedding stationery with numbers” I hear you cry!!

Ultraviolet invisible pens are amazing and make quick work of it! You don’t have to concentrate on it being beautiful or perfect, just get the number on there and use a UV light to find out which is which when they come back.

Super easy and you’ll feel like a spy, which in my book is the best reason to do anything.

Until next time, sending masses of my love. Adios!

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How to Pick a Wedding Theme or Colour Palette

Answers for the Newly Engaged | Bite-size Vol.1.2

Picking a theme is possibly one of the harder parts of the #wedding, because it has to be one of the first things you pick, other than the venue or date. The theme is ultimately your own ‘wedding brand’, speaking of you both in your relationship, reflecting it in the details and colour choices. Basically the guests will say with a gasp of awe,

“This is so them

It’s a brand that will run through everything, including your save the dates and/or invitations, so, let’s get down to the question…

How do I pick a Wedding Theme or Colour Palette?

Okay so there are a million ways you can go about this, and a lot of them involve buying expensive magazines and going to wedding fayres, but there’s two good routes; first, contact me for a free consultation and I can come up with some wedding invitations or save the dates for you – this is great when you have a vague idea, like a favourite colour or perhaps a place you both love to visit, such as Paris or Rome.

If you have no ideas just yet, my second option is one I can truly bang-on about for years and it’s absolutely free too.

One word, one app, my one love; Pinterest. This mood boarding app is the ultimate in helping you plan out what you like. You can gather it all together and save it all on one virtual mood board. And I could go as far to say, you could probably sort this whole part of your wedding out in 30 minutes if you’re well versed in the app already.

Step One

Install Pinterest and get antiquated, if you have not yet done so before. Then, make a board and just call it ‘Wedding Ideas’ or something broad, because you’re literally going to put every single pin you like right here for now.

Check out my Pinterest board for example.

Step Two

Start searching for every colour you have ever thought of and put ‘wedding’ after it. ‘purple wedding’, ‘mint wedding’, ‘teal wedding’. No need to search for colours you dislike, but hey – you may just see something you never thought could be so beautiful! You’ll start seeing tons of ideas cross your path, and if you like any, pin them to your board!

Search other things like ‘unusual wedding’ or perhaps pick something you love you would like to incorporate like ‘book wedding’ or ‘rock wedding’. Pin, pin and pin like cray.

Step Three

Look back at your board. Can you see a colour or group of colours emerging? Can you see an obvious theme at all running through? Or perhaps see pastels? Maybe brights? Are you seeing lots of balloons or glitter? Are you seeing a minimal vibe? Perhaps they’re all photos outside? Or maybe something a little steampunk or Grecian?

What’s popping out for you?

Step Four

Take one of the obvious themes and expand on it. Time to start a new board.

If for instance, say we had a dark blue running through the main board and it looks as though a night theme is emerging, with sparklers and fur coats… Go with it. Pick a cute name for your navy blue, glam fairy lights and glitzy board – today we’ll go with ‘Starry Night Wedding’.

Start pinning just these types of pins here and really expand on the details – search ‘navy and green centre pieces’ or ‘fairy light banquet’ and such the like to see what you can come up with!

Here’s my ‘Starry Night Wedding’ board for example.

If you have more than one obvious theme running through your main board, go back and repeat the last few steps until you have a lot of themes and colour combos you like. Perhaps you can incorporate two into one eventually!

By this time you should have loads of ideas and a bigger overall vision of your future wedding (Yay!) but I would always keep going with your boards and see where they take you with the finer details, but try not to go too overboard (pardon ze pun).

You may muddle your ideas and find that it’s slightly too much to pull into a wedding ‘brand’ if you have loads of pins – perhaps 6 pins are exactly enough to build your dream wedding from – have an experiment!

This step by step Pinterest plan can help you find your feet when you have no idea what direction to look, so I hope you have fun pinning and find your personal medley of wedding ideas that spark your creative juices!

The best part? You can share these boards with your wedding planner, venue host, invitation designer (me! me! pick me! I’m a great stationery designer! #noshame) and your bridesmaids and groomsmen so you can all find dapper outfits to match your chosen colours and theme!

Love to all, keep being divine and take care XxXx

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When to Send Your Wedding Invitations

Answers for the Newly Engaged | Bite-size Vol.1.1

Namaste people! Time for me to make your engaged life a little easier: Here are some guide dates for sending invitations. This will be part of a little set of questions (I hope to answer) that seem to come up quite frequently, with lots of Brides and Grooms, in the earlier stages of wedding planning. These answers are specifically linked to Invitations, but there’s plenty on my blog about dresses, venues and flowers to name a few.

Here’s bite-size Vol.1.1 to chew over, the king-daddy of frequently asked invitation questions:

When do I send out my Wedding Invitations?

This is tricky for most because of the confusion between Invites and save the date sending, or just a straight-up invitation…

When Doing Both:

  • Save the Dates { 12 – 7 Months before your Wedding Day
  • Invitations Follow { 6 – 4 Months before your Wedding Day

When Doing Just Invitations:

  • Invitations { 8 – 5 Months before your Wedding Day

The Exceptions:

If you’re having a destination wedding these will need to be the earliest suggested time, or around 1-2 months earlier on all counts if you can, to make sure everyone has enough time to plan the trip in – the more time, the better in this case and a save the date is reccomnded.

It’s better to make sure your save the date has the country you’re be married in on it, so people know what they need to prepare for. Poolside or Cosy fireplace?


Of course every couple is a little different so shaking free of these rules makes no real harm, so long as you don’t leave it ‘till a few days before and expect 150 guests to RSVP.

I hope that’s helpful to some! If you have any questions, I’ll see if I can help.

Also stay tuned for the next part of Volume 1, the frequently asked questions of the newly engaged.

So, until next time, happy planning!

With love, as always.